So Hard.
This is a simple spontaneous post written from my office (i work now), I was having a conversation with gera babu, about idealism (yes, again) , he was talking about smiling a lot, and also to challenge yourself and a lot of motivational things, and me, well if you know me barely, then you might know that i hate anything remotely preachy, but when i gave him a piece of my mind, his answer startled me, he said that this was not for everyone, it was to lift his friends who felt lost, i assure you i'm not one of those lost people, but what disturbed me was the lack of sympathy that i felt for these guys, and this put me in a contemplative mood, hence the post, that why didn't i feel any sort of empathy or sympathy for the people who are struggling with their lives, why didn't i feel the least bit sorry for the people who are existing, am i the proverbial tin-man, who doesn't have a heart, no that doesn't feel right, i feel sorry for beggars all the time and for victims of injustice, and all the anti-establishment persons fighting to make themselves heard.
Then what is the matter with me, i thought about this for a long long time, and couldn't figure out what made me feel this way, 2 coffees later, i was none the wiser, so i let it go....
Then out of the blue it hit me, i didn't feel sorry for them because of the simple fact that they are not fighters, these guys are criers, life gives hard times to everybody but it also gives the strength to fight the hard times, i have been there and done it. So why is it that people fail to fight, the question of circumstances being supreme is ridiculous, that god wills it is even more absurd, and fate, oh fate, don't even let me get started on the fate crap. 90% of our life is in our hands and 10% can be attributed to luck, do the major chunk right and the chances are you will be alright, but screwing up the 90 and then blaming it on the 10, well that is human hypocrisy for you.
And it does not matter what the size of dog in the fight is, it is the size of the fight in the dog that matters. So when everyone says life is a bitch, turn into a dog.
Note from author: This time because the author has taken the higher ground and has become preachy, it will be impossible to remove the idealist opinion that he has expressed...so so sorry :)
impressive.. not the writing style this time but the thoughts.. I agree with you for a substantially good enough part of your post.. just that.. IT IS EASIER SAID THAN DONE.. oh! preachy me now.. muaafi jahaanpanaah ;)
ReplyDeleteno, saying will always be easy....always...but doing is also not impossible....and muaffi kabul kar li gayi hai...
ReplyDeleteHey Varun thanks for writing a post about that discussion, i never knew you take my words so seriously well good for me!! :) First of all let me make one thing clear what i do is not sympathy, its my care for them. and bro there are moments when the most stable people feel lost, no one's perfect and no body can stay strong all the time.. Life gives hard time to all and its not that everyone will be able to face them always.. There can be time when you and I can also become a litle week and at those times i do need my friends to be there with me.. I don't preach to be over positive all i say is just be confident and don't loose your positivity when you are among negatives. Good that you were able to face the toughest times but that doesn't give you the right to make fun of others.. I think what's ridiculous is the fact that you are asking " I did it, why can't others" i think its one topic where you should not debate its good that you faced tough times, many just can't and yes there's a possibility that 90%of times its there own mistake or responsibility but hey after all we are humans - Not god we can go wrong too!! I am lucky i have friends who are there in my tough times, and i'll strive to be there with every friend who needs me even you my bro even you!!
ReplyDeleteWell...two contemporary sides of a same coin. Establishment itself means revolt. Revolt aginst the existing plethora.
ReplyDelete@Varun: Tin-man don't feel things the way you've written so well. In fact, it's the realization of the unsaid that is there inside everyone. Fate or no fate...god or no god...we are always responsible for our actions and sooner or later what goes around alwaz comes around. You are right about the sissy souls...its lame on the part of a limp to break his crutches in a brawl. And i think the point chaudhary is highlighting is not to encourage such sissy loosrz....we all have to fight our own fight. Only few chosen ones can take up anyonz fight...and dat action is out of bounds from any contemplation of eligibility for the same. It's like choosing various chunks to make up one's conscience....choice is alwaz ours but never the consequences.
@Gera: As you asked me to comment this is what i feel abt your part as well:
A river never thinks before satiating anyone's thirst. A 'knight' never thinks before fighting for the right...sun never thinks whether taliban will use its radiance or tibet will glow in its aura. All in all some people love sharing their joys and virtues...which in terms of this sane world is 'absurd' or 'impractical' But guess what...thats the beauty of their existence. Ofcrs ull meet many ungrateful bitches and insincere assholes....but amidst everything u'll make a bounty which only a few can make....giving joy to others. Words indeed are the key...before actions can prove anything...words wraps up the thing and deliver.
So go on...do wat u do best :)
PS- The dark side of the moon...dats how writings are described. gud job chaudhary.
@Gera's: number one..atleast understand what i wrote, i never said you sympathise with people, i just said i don't sympathise with the people whom you cheer up...i never belied that tough times don't come, on the contrary, i said they do....but in the end who has to face them....help may come or may not, will you depend on something that MIGHT come....i don't think so....call it my arrogance, but we as a community have become sissies, i completely agree with frost on this one, that people need to toughen up, because when pushed to it killing is as easy as breathing....
ReplyDeleteThat's what i am doing bro!! Making them tough, some times some people ned a lil bit of Bournvita to have milk, somejust love it as it is!!!
ReplyDelete@gera: no one "needs" anybody, that is just the comfort of having people that makes it seem so...
ReplyDelete@frost: we think alike, though you speak in many metaphors...so i can't really understand what you exactly said, but thank you for commenting on my post....
@gera n chaudhary:
ReplyDeleteyou both are talking about the same thing...
chaudhary on one hand is questioning the validity while gera on the other hand is providing the manifestation for the same.
Gere u do the right thing by backing ppl up...one of the many resnz i respct u. u see dats ur speciality. its like u r an eagle and u njoi the skies...so its foolish on ur part to get its feedback from say shark or lion. who although rule their domain but will never understand wat it feels like to "fly"
Right? so dat flying is characteristic of "you" becoz u luv doin it...not bcz wat ppl think or may say or judge it.
Chaudhary is also saying the same but on a retrograding tone. That's may be his style of writing.
In the end it's alwaz the same thing...whether u regret or cherish ur choice. in my personal opinion i dnt mind helping anyone...wats d reward!??
Guilt free sleep. zero vanity life n live xtreme spirit.
I HAVE HELPED SM PPL I KNO I SHUDVE NEVER HELPED...BUT THEN WHO CARES!? LET THEM BE WHAT THEY ARE...I WILL BE WHAT I AM. WE ALL LEARN. SMTYMZ THE HARDER WAY.
Well bhalu bhai thank you for bridging the gap!! I thinks its a perfect ending for such a fuming discussion!! :) God bless all!!
ReplyDelete@frost....man that does make sense, in fact a lot of it.....bas ek problem hai....geru says that he lives paani ke nichey and that main aasmanon mein udta hoon......hahahahahahahahhahahahahaha
ReplyDeletei read it n wrote a huge comment...whch gt erasd cz der ws problm postin it...so aftr spndn a gud haf an hour worth efforts in vain...i want to tak a brk...before i re-write my opinions...!
ReplyDeleteheyy varun...i lykd wt u wrote...xcpt fr dat 'nobody needs nebdy' waala comment...u kno u r ryt abt one aspct f it dat its al abt d comfrt f sum1 bein arnd ...bt u kno der r a lot f ppl whuu 'need' d motivation n encouragmnt 2 gt d fighter in dem 2 cum out....u dnt relate to it cz u dnt need it in ur lyf abi...bt trust me d ppl whu gt a lil weak..fr dem dis lil sa pushin wrks wondrs...n der is nuthn lyk a lost or weak person its jus abt d support...n dis is accordin 2 me d reasn y u dnt feel abt such ppl d way ur frnd does...cz lyk u mentiond in ur post dat u hv facd tough yms in ur lyf so dis topic is easier fr u to approach dan d ppl whu havnt facd or r facin d turmoil...so its all abt d kind f experiences dat lyf offers n d tyms at whch it offers dem....so i thnk ur frnd gera does a gr8 job...rest is al abt personal perceptions....
ReplyDeletealso i thnk dat toks abt idealism r baseless....coz
1.d basic definition f idealism is screwed up...on one hand it says 'its the philosophical theory that ideas are the only reality' n on d other it means 'the quality of believing that ideals should be pursued'.... so its so contradictory...lyk hw cn sum1 believe in ideals wen ideas r supposd 2 b d only reality...huh???
2. idealism is nt as idealistic as it means it totally is subject 2 tym,situation n circumstances....
i kno i gt too touchy abt d topic....so it myt sound confusin...so kindly bear wid it :p
p.s-u chose an amazingly apt pic fr dis one...!
@aakriti thank you soo much for this comment!! Thats it tahts the only thing i am going to say cozif i write a single word more than there'll be a even bigger comment from varun.. but you really said it very clearly and impressively!! :)
ReplyDelete@gera babu, if you think you will be spared from the arduous task of reading a long comment, its not going to hapen. I agree wit you aakriti, that it is about life's experiences. some people do need the push, and it is my personal opinion, i don't endorse it, i just say it...your comment is well appreciated...but this is not my idealism post. my idealism post is further down this blog....
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